Monthly Archives: October 2008

The look

I’ve been sick. Cold/flu symptoms. 

So I worked from home today. Around 2:30, I ran out of drugs, and I realized I hadn’t left the apartment all day. So I gathered up Gertie and my pocketbook and off I went to CVS. 

I didn’t think too much about my appearance until I saw the look.

I’m sure I’ve given the look before. It starts with the feet and it goes all the way up to the head. 

The look was attached to a smartly dressed business professional. I tried to imagine myself through her eyes.

On my feet: an old pair of Birkenstock suede clogs, paired with black argile trouser socks. Pants: A pair of black, capri yoga pants with a hot pink skull and cross bones on the butt. Shirt: Blue fleece jacket. Face: Absolutely no makeup, glasses and I’m sure my nose was bright red. Hair: crazy town.

Good grief. I was a wreck. 

She didn’t know me. Didn’t know I have a nice job, live in a nice place and have a nice dog (who was in the car), but from outward appearances, I looked like a crazy person. I’m sure of it. 

And I didn’t care.

In fact, it was kind of nice not to care.

Pass the tissues, please…

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Hi you. I can see what you are doing via my stat tracker.

No, don’t worry, I’m not monitoring your every move via IP address — I don’t even know your IP address. Basically I can just tell how many people come here every day and how many people view any given post.

I can also tell which Google searches landed people to good ‘ole . Most popular searches have included:

hot neighbor

Chookah (my rain boots)

quirky dating (Man, that would have been a good sub-name for this site.)

Justin Stephanie (one of my favorite searches!)

So here’s the deal. You know a lot about me. I know very little about you. Shall we even the playing field? How about a poll?! (Actually, this entire post was because I found the new polling feature on Word Press and I wanted to try it.)

Ready. Go

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The boyfriend learned a valuable lesson last night.


I mean never.

Fool yourself into sharing a drink in a movie theater with me after I’ve just returned from a four mile run.

Apparently, I’ll drink it all gone.

Before the movie starts.


Not exactly the best re-hydration, but I was thirsty and the popcorn wasn’t helping…

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New friends in new places

Ah…Texas. A big state with a big heart and a big attitude. You either love it or you hate it, but you can’t deny its existence. I just returned from a conference of the nations’ features editors. It was very inspiring, and a little dismal, considering the state of the industry. But the conference was great. I met some very talented writers and editors, and was surrounded with peeps who like me, can spend hours contemplating the future of the newspaper industry — one of my favorite topics.

There was plenty of talk of how new media including blogging, video and yes, even short form blogging such as twitter will impact this biz.

Other highlights including meeting new friends. Ironically, I had to go all the way to Houston to meet her. The most awesome dating blogger/columnist/journalist for the KC Star. Think Carrie Bradshaw but a  bazillion times funnier and smarter…

Enjoyed some good food, great margaritas, excellent speakers, a fabulous hotel and just when I thought my conference experience couldn’t get any better, we ended it with a poolside fashion show featuring Chloe Dao of Project Runway and her fall line. 

And finally, I’m home. It’s good to be back. Gertie started growing in her fur coat while I was gone. I hope she didn’t think I wouldn’t be around to snuggle with….

The boyfriend didn’t grow in a fur coat, but it’s still nice to see him…

Over and out.

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Question for those with nose rings. How do you keep the metal thingy from poking out? This is rather embarrassing as it looks like you have a metal booger sticking out of your nose.

As flu and cold season approaches, I want to be well prepared to tackle any and all items sticking out of my nose and most especially those hanging onto any unnatural objects that may be in their way.

This post so spoils any illusions of me being a punk rock chick.


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(Not) catching the bouquet

The boyfriend and I went to a wedding yesterday. Actually, I had two handsome dates because the boyfriend’s roommate went with us. (I heart the boyfriend’s roommate.) It was a sweet wedding. You could totally tell the couple was meant for each other. And, as I was sitting there in my pew watching the ceremony, clutching the boyfriend’s hand, squeezing it at appropriate times, wiping away tears (I always cry at weddings), I realized it was also the first wedding I had attended since ending, or even planning to end my own marriage. 

I sat there and hoped lovely and happy things for the happy bride and groom as they gleefully left the sanctuary arm in arm. 

It just has to work. It really does. It just didn’t work for me with him.

And I looked into the beautiful brown eyes of my date (The boyfriend, not the roommate. That would have been weird.), and I just felt peace and happiness, the way life should be.

Then I tried to kiss him, but he turned his head because he thought I was going to tell him something, so I whispered, “Um, I was going to kiss you.” Then we laughed because it was a really funny moment. And I was so happy.

But something snapped me out of my bliss. 

Time for the bouquet toss.


“I need all the single ladies…”

Oh god. Not this again.


I detest this tradition.

Detest it.

So much that I refused to do it at my own wedding. 

It’s a tradition that seems to say, “Look ladies, someday, you can be really happy. You can get married. Because that is what makes a girl happy. You can’t possibly be happy and be single, can you?”


But there I was, standing there with all the hopeful six-year-olds on up. 

Luckily I didn’t catch it. It didn’t even come close.

But if I’m honest, (and I’ve never not been on this blog) a part of me really wants to have that whole marriage thing again. A big part of me. A HUGE part of me. (This is also the part of me that wants to have babies, which I’m pretty sure has a lot to do with the recent birthday I celebrated.)

But I want it to be right. And good. And not because society says it should be. 

So for now, I’m going to enjoy things the way they are. Enjoy time with the boyfriend. Enjoy times away from the boyfriend. 

I’m searching my soul. I’m trying to find out what and who I need to be to be a better person. To at some later day, make a great wife and mother.

So for now, no bouquets for me. (Unless you count the beautiful roses the boyfriend sent for my birthday.)

But someday…and not because I catch someone. Because they catch me.

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Slumber Party

A while back I called my Aunt Nancy. It was around 3 in the afternoon.

Me: Hey! What are you up to?

AN: Oh Hi! I’m at a slumber party? [Aunt Nancy is in her 60s.]

Me: A what?

AN: A slumber party with my girlfriends. [This part didn’t surprise me, but the time of day caught me off gaurd.]

Me: Um, Ok. But Aunt Nancy, it’s 3 in the afternoon. I thought slumber parties started at night.

AN: Oh, we’ve been going since 10 a.m. We went shopping, then we went out to lunch and now we are playing bridge.

Me: What’s next?

AN: Wine and soup!!! And we rented that movie “The Other Bolyn Sister. ” So we are going to watch that.

Me: Wow. I don’t know what to say.

AN: Oh, gotta go, we are starting a new round of bridge.

I love Aunt Nancy. She’s perfect.

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